Bowels of Compassion
“Remember them that are in bonds, as bound with them; and
them which suffer adversity, as being yourselves also in the body.”
Hebrews 13:3
Introduction:
- This morning we considered the Lord’s priorities for our lives in the simple words, “I Am Third.”
- Perfection as saints, families, and a church require that we learn, study, and apply the grace of compassion.
- We are to show compassions (plural) toward others, as the Lord does toward us (Lam 3:22; Zech 7:8-10).
- As usual, those who have most of it will hear and change the most, and those who have little will not hear.
- We want to emphasize the personal compassion of one to another in our church and outside our church.
What Is It?
- Empathy. The power of projecting one’s personality (and so fully comprehending) the object of contemplation.
- Sympathy. The quality or state of being affected by the condition of another with a feeling similar or corresponding to that of the other; the fact or capacity of entering into or sharing the feelings of another or others; fellow-feeling. Also, a feeling or frame of mind evoked by and responsive to some external influence.
- Compassion. Suffering together with another, participation in suffering; fellow-feeling, sympathy. The feeling or emotion, when a person is moved by the suffering or distress of another, and by the desire to relieve it; pity that inclines one to spare or to succour.
- Tenderhearted. Having a tender heart; easily moved by fear, pity, sorrow, or love; timid; pitiful, compassionate; loving; impressionable.
- Pitiful. Full of or characterized by pity; compassionate, merciful, tender.
- It is the sympathy a woman naturally feels at the sight of a crying baby (Ex 2:6; Is 49:15).
- It is the opposite of killing old and stooped men, or young men and maidens (II Chr 36:17).
- It is the bowels of compassion to feel the needs of others and alleviate them (I John 3:17).
- It is the sympathetic understanding of the same fears, pain, and doubts of others (Heb 5:2).
- Paul defines it as the thoughts, feelings, and commiseration of one person being closely connected with another person in their adversities (Heb 13:3).
- Peter helps our definition by exhorting to compassion, love, pity, and courtesy (I Peter 3:8).
- It is restoring others in humility and fear, not in sanctimonious condescension (Gal 6:1-3).
- It is rejoicing with the honored and weeping with those suffering (Rom 12:15; I Cor 12:26).
- It is being tenderhearted to one another, contrary to all the works of the flesh (Eph 4:31-32).
- Sympathy and compassion shown toward the brethren will be remembered (Matt 25:31-46).
Who Had It?
- God had and has it toward His people (Ps 78:38; 86:15; 145:8). See specially Ps 103:13-14.
- Our Lord Jesus is always the greatest example for any aspect of godliness or righteousness.
- The crowds with problems evoked compassion (Matt 9:36; 14:14; 15:32; 20:29-34).
- Jesus does more than save legally; He also saves practically (Is 53:4 cp Matt 8:14-17).
- He is touched with the feelings of our infirmities – empathetic sympathy (Heb 4:15).
- He saw friends crying over Lazarus, so the Spirit tells us, “Jesus wept” (John 11:35).
- When He saw the widow of Nain burying her son, He had compassion (Luk 7:11-15).
- A leper found Jesus very compassionate to his horrible, diseased case (Mark 1:40-45).
- Jesus had great compassion on a father and his devil-possessed son (Mark 9:17-27).
- Jesus had compassion on a poor widow woman in her giving to God (Luke 21:1-4).
- Joseph asked for some from the chief butler, but he did not show him any (Gen 40:14-15).
- Solomon requested and received an understanding heart to judge the people (I Kgs 3:9,12).
- Ebedmelech, an Ethiopian eunuch, had compassion on Jeremiah in a dungeon (Jer 38:6-13).
- A king had compassion on his servant, but the servant did not to another (Matt 18:21-35).
- A certain Samaritan had compassion on a wounded Jew left for dead (Luke 10:25-37).
- We must be as compassionate to repentant sinners as the prodigal’s father (Luke 15:11-32).
- Onesiphorus is not very well known, but he was compassionate to Paul (II Tim 1:16-18).
- Consider how the Hebrew saints showed compassion to their brother Paul (Heb 10:34).
How Do We Get It?
- First, we must remember and think about others and our dutiful opportunity to serve them.
- We go through our day believing “I am third.” We face all choices with “I am third.”
- Paul asks the Hebrews to remember those in bonds. We must remember (Heb 13:3).
- Paul reminds the Hebrews that assemblies are for considering others (Heb 10:23-24).
- We must have the mind that God created us to be the servants of others (Phil 2:3-5).
- We must think about our nothingness and their importance in Christ (Rom 12:10,16).
- You should be able to list honors and afflictions for each one (Ro 12:15; I Cor 12:26).
- This requires the grace of self-denial, because our flesh selfishly only thinks of self.
- We never think about what others should be thinking or doing toward us. Never!
- Talking to family or friends on Sundays, when other opportunities exist, is sad indeed.
- Second, we must sympathetically analyze their situations to determine their honor or needs.
- Paul also told the Hebrews how to think about those in other situations (Heb 13:3).
- You must put yourself in their shoes, as the saying goes, and commiserate with them.
- Here is where we must loose our bowels of compassion – our sympathetic empathy.
- If you are showing compassion in conversation, you must be a listener, not a talker.
- You must listen more than talk, comfort more then correct, probe more than suggest.
- There is human adversity you do not blow off with quick advice. Grieve with them.
- Singing songs to those that are of heavy hearts is a heartless act of cruelty (Pr 25:20).
- Third, you must determine what you can actually do to serve the other person profitably.
- Many times, the service needed is merely sympathetic understanding of their trouble.
- A few kind words that express your sympathy are beautiful things (Pr 15:23; 25:11).
- Are you willing to spend for others? Be spent? If they love you less (II Cor 12:15)?
- Cards, calls, food, hospitality, jobs, dates, cars, counsel, or any other service counts.
- Since you cannot directly solve their adversity, you can solve in indirectly by prayer.
Conclusion:
- This morning we considered the Lord’s priorities for our lives in the simple words, “I Am Third.”
- Let us consciously allow the Holy Spirit to show God’s love through our compassion toward each other.
- If we are the sons of God, then we will cultivate the fruit of love by the Spirit to the glory of Jesus Christ.